Marriage Class
Yesterday Jason and I spent the whole day on a marriage course run by the Catholic Church. We arrived wondering if it was going to be a bible bashing session and whether we had to pretend we weren't living together. We had tea and biscuits and had to write our hopes and fears for the day. I bumped into one of the teachers from St Benedict's so it was nice to chat to her. Then we spent the rest of the day doing group work.
One exercise was quite funny - we split into boy and girl groups and we had to write down what annoys us about our partners. One girl was saying how annoying it is when her partner comes home from work and dumps the contents of his pockets on the stereo. She was really quite wound up abut it and she has now taken to pocketing any money he leaves on the side to spend on herself! Then I realised that Jason does the same accept he dumps it on the chest of draws in our bedroom - might have to start pocketing the money! My main pet hates about Jason are;
1) He puts shoes on chairs - that really pisses me off especially when they are my mothers posh yellow ones - I saw a pair on there last week and I quickly pulled them off like the chair was going to catch fire if they stayed there grrrr!
2) Jigging - he always jigs his leg when he is sat down but the worst is when he is bed and the whole bed shakes.
3) That I always have to nag him to get his hair cut and he never puts gel in it and it looks all fluffy.
Then we had to write solutions to these problems and discuss it back in our groups - Jason claimed that he had read in mother’s medical book that jigging is a medical problem - I rolled my eyes at this point in despair.
We then talked about more serious issues - causes of conflict in marriage such as redundancy, being unable to have children, financial problems and how we would deal with them. We also had to talk about sex but we did that in our couples (talked) and we didn't report back to the group on that one. One really nice thing but quite embarrassing was we had to say to our partner (in front of everyone) what we were initially attracted us to them and what we love about them now. Jason got slushy and said some lovely things which was nice but felt uncomfortable in front of everyone. I just said that once I got past his horrible painting shirt which he wore to cycle maintenance I fell in love with his smiley eyes and his great sense of humour. What I love about him now is he is my best friend and he makes me feel very special. Right you can all stop vomiting now!
The day ended with a short prayer service (the only really religious part of the day) and in couples we lit a candle and made an engagement promise which was a bit cheesy but nice. The day confirmed to both us our feelings for each other and our reasons for getting married.
One exercise was quite funny - we split into boy and girl groups and we had to write down what annoys us about our partners. One girl was saying how annoying it is when her partner comes home from work and dumps the contents of his pockets on the stereo. She was really quite wound up abut it and she has now taken to pocketing any money he leaves on the side to spend on herself! Then I realised that Jason does the same accept he dumps it on the chest of draws in our bedroom - might have to start pocketing the money! My main pet hates about Jason are;
1) He puts shoes on chairs - that really pisses me off especially when they are my mothers posh yellow ones - I saw a pair on there last week and I quickly pulled them off like the chair was going to catch fire if they stayed there grrrr!
2) Jigging - he always jigs his leg when he is sat down but the worst is when he is bed and the whole bed shakes.
3) That I always have to nag him to get his hair cut and he never puts gel in it and it looks all fluffy.
Then we had to write solutions to these problems and discuss it back in our groups - Jason claimed that he had read in mother’s medical book that jigging is a medical problem - I rolled my eyes at this point in despair.
We then talked about more serious issues - causes of conflict in marriage such as redundancy, being unable to have children, financial problems and how we would deal with them. We also had to talk about sex but we did that in our couples (talked) and we didn't report back to the group on that one. One really nice thing but quite embarrassing was we had to say to our partner (in front of everyone) what we were initially attracted us to them and what we love about them now. Jason got slushy and said some lovely things which was nice but felt uncomfortable in front of everyone. I just said that once I got past his horrible painting shirt which he wore to cycle maintenance I fell in love with his smiley eyes and his great sense of humour. What I love about him now is he is my best friend and he makes me feel very special. Right you can all stop vomiting now!
The day ended with a short prayer service (the only really religious part of the day) and in couples we lit a candle and made an engagement promise which was a bit cheesy but nice. The day confirmed to both us our feelings for each other and our reasons for getting married.
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